Monday, December 1, 2008

FROM TENSION TO TOLERANCE:

TENSION usually is a by-product of stress. It can make us cranky, knot up our stomachs, cramp up our shoulders and send everyone (including the dog) looking for cover when we are around. Not a happy thought - right? So, what is the antidote?

TOLERANCE is a virtue that doesn't seem all that easy to come by, especially for those of us who are fairly rigid in our views, are perfectionists and have high expectations of ourselves and others. For the survival of step-parenthood, however, tolerance is an absolute MUST. Tolerance can be learnt. The steps towards greater tolerance are:

* Lower your expectations (those you have of yourself and those you have of others).
* Recognize that different people function by different standards and that this does not make them wrong and you right, or vice versa.
* Drop any desire you may have to judge other's thoughts and/or behaviours (even if you are convinced that they ARE wrong).
* Develop an attitude of curiosity. Try to find out why people think and act the way they do.
* Remember that you don't have to prove anything to anyone.
* Let go and relax!!!

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