Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Step 10 - SPEAK IN FAVOUR OF your partner

Okay, here we are with step 10, which concludes the series of '10 STEPS TO SUPPORTING YOUR PARTNER'. I hope that you have enjoyed it, have taken it on board and are reaping the rewards.


This is possibly THE MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do for your partner – to speak in favour of them! Nothing is quite as affirming for a woman in a step-situation as having a friend tell her how much her partner appreciates her,

how highly he speaks of her, what a terrific wife and great stepparent he considers her to be! In a world that constantly judges speaking in favour of your partner is a gift you can give that doesn’t cost a cent and yet will go a long way

towards ensuring their pleasure, happiness, loyalty, commitment and love.


Speaking ‘in favour of’ means:


* Telling others how terrific your partner is.

* Letting your children know that your partner is to be treated with respect.

* Affirming rather than criticizing them. Honouring, encouraging and supporting them in any way you can.

* Frequently letting them know that they are the most important person in your life.


Mother Theresa said about encouragement: “Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless”. As I conclude this series, I’d like to present you with two quotes that I feel encapsulate everything I’ve attempted to say:


Remember to be gentle with yourself and others.

We are all children of chance, and none can say

why some fields will blossom while others

lay brown beneath the August sun.

Care for those around you.

Look past your differences.

Their dreams are no less than yours.

Their choices in life no more easily made.

And give. Give in any way you can,

of whatever you possess. To give is to love.

To withhold is to wither. Care less for

your harvest than for how it is shared,

and your life will have meaning,

and your heart will have peace.

(Kent)


If there is light in the soul,

there will be beauty in the person.

If there is beauty in the person,

there will be harmony in the house.

If there is harmony in the house,

there will be order in the nation.

If there is order in the nation,

there will be peace in the world.

(Author unknown)


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